Redefining relationships is something that have been an interesting process for me. I never really intended to redefine relationships. Now when I mean relationships, I'm talking about the "romantic" type of relationships. I never intended on redefining relationships, but it is something that I have enjoyed over the past years. My mind, it works like some kind of battery. In my mind, for example, I might see someone and automatically have this scene playing out in my mind, and will see them as being "the one." So I can truly say that the base "programming" is there which is: I see a person.... I create a scene in my mind about them.... I then have feelings about them.... and I then try to fulfill those feelings using my experience of "desire" to communicate with them in a way that I can "win" them over. And then voila! We're in a relationship! I meeeaaannn.... if you look at it from this perspective, it is quite limiting. It's like trying to catch a fish using bait. So it's not like I'm really communicating with someone else authentically. I am using my "programming"..... or should I say my "instinct" to attract others.
For me, redefining relationships mean that I am no longer tied to these "instincts", or in other words, these patterns of behavior that I have gotten so used to. It, rather, means that I am simply using the time that I have with another to communicate, and express myself without any hidden agendas. That is when I can authentically share myself, and allow the relationship to grow into something radically distinctive than from what my expectations are used to -- regardless of what kind of relationship it is and what it develops into. So this is basically how I am redefining relationships at the moment. So that is all that I have for now. Thank you for reading!
